It’s learning how to enjoy spending time with yourself how to enjoy spending time with yourself and another person.The biggest hurdle is often being honest and open when it comes to accepting help.

Suffering alone is not easy, but it avoids the embarrassment and grief that comes along with laying it all out there. It’s much easier to be a person with someone who loves you.

It’s absolutely terrifying, but it’s worth the attempt.

But maybe the best piece of advice I have when it comes to dating with depression—and something I wish I realized much sooner—is that it’s OK to listen to your brain, even if it makes you miserable.

If you don’t think you’re in the position to date seriously, give yourself space to manage your own mental difference.

You’re doing what’s best for yourself and for the other person.

It’s not a conversation of fixing what’s wrong—nothing is wrong with you.This has happened innumerable times, especially when it comes to any commitment involving the evening, the weekend, whenever the sun is up, whenever the sun is down, bars, movies, restaurants, and the planet Earth.I became particularly good at creating excuses (heads up for family and friends: there is a gas leak) which once left me with the nickname “Squirmy Shermie,” which I assume was supposed to be an endearing term about being a damn flake.A challenging part of dating while depressed is a challenging part of dating in general: Putting yourself out there in ways that won’t make you want to self-immolate.For a long time, I joined Tinder and Bumble and all the sites you’re supposed to join as a hip young person, only to find that I could never bring myself to deliver on a date because I could never bring myself to actually leave my house.After all, there are 18 million people in the United States who suffer from depression, and most of them are probably dating.