He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me!He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.Hi I’m trying to find out if a US Army solider by the name of Murphy Raymond is real or fake.

Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name. I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town.

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life…exactly what their goal is.

And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!!

It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office.

Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. He says one of the following…parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him? He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often.

Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address.

Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site.

********** UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not.

If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies).