We locate inside another a perfection that eludes us within ourselves, and through union with the beloved, hope somehow to maintain [against evidence of all self-knowledge] a precarious faith in the species.” You might recall biological anthropologist Helen Fisher’s work from this fascinating discussion of how antidepressants impact the experience of romantic love.

We fall in love hoping that we will not find in the other what we know is in ourselves – all the cowardice, weakness, laziness, dishonesty, compromise and brute stupidity.

We throw a cordon of love around the chosen one, and decide that everything that lies within it will somehow be free of our faults and hence lovable.

This is a list of the former: Five books that either caught my eye, educated my mind, opened my networks to invaluable dialogue, or simply stimulated my sex craving curiosity button for more than a fleeting moment. – Sixth Edition, by Paul Joannides Here’s what Oprah magazine had to say: “You’ve never read a manual as warm, friendly, liberating, thorough and potentially sex-life-changing as The Guide to Getting It On.

Neither had anyone in our office, which may be why our copies keep disappearing” This book has been translated into over thirteen different languages and has sold over 650,000 copies. by Gary Chapman Chapman brings his over 30 years of experience as a marriage counsellor to his theory on how individuals express and interpret love.

Each chapter in this comprehensive four-volume work includes a scholarly overview of empirical research and theories about the psychology of love.

In addition, individuals' own definitions of love are included.

As a sex therapist, I get many books on love, sex and relationships crossing my desk.

Some linger and are reread multiple times, while others are read, scoffed at and then tossed quickly from my sight.

In De Botton’s classic style of networked knowledge, the narrative is sprinkled with references to and quotes from the major Western philosophers, yet equally reflective of his signature style of absorbing, highly readable narrative.