If you look polished and well-groomed, you’re where you need to be.

That generally means: hair neatly styled or pulled back if it’s long, eyebrows groomed (sounds small, but bushy eyebrows can undo an otherwise polished look), a face that isn’t oily (whether you accomplish that with powder, skin care, or magic), clothes that fit well, shoes that aren’t scuffed, etc.

We hear Black women in particular express concern time and time again over the lack of quality men in their local dating pools.

D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Next we align them with people who match their personalities and look at the physical attributes later. Whether we’re at the grocery store, church or a networking event.

Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering? That’s been very successful for our clients and us. COM: Where are you finding the right men for these women?

The ladies consider themselves “heart hunters” with an excellent success rate. KELLI FISHER: We’re open to working with both male and female clients but we’ve really had a flood of Black women coming to us – very successful, professional Black women.

Find out what they had to say about their Black female clients’ biggest obstacles, desires and successes! They’ve been very successful in their careers but have had real challenges meeting a counterpart.

I’ve never worn makeup in my life before, and I don’t know anything about putting it on or wearing it or buying it. Is it unprofessional to continue to not wear makeup when I go for interviews, and what about when I’m actually working?

If I don’t actually have to wear makeup, would you, if you were my manager, expect it?

They also feel like it’s hard to meet men on their level who they feel are still down to earth.

We’ve both discovered that they typically feel that when they meet affluent men of color they appear to be “above them.”FISHER: Yes, and those men have so many choices that they’re not paying much attention to trying to settle down. FISHER: We continue to hear the same complaints all the time from Black women across the country, so there is some validity to it.

That men don’t usually court you anymore and technology prohibits good old-fashioned conversation.