found women do want more sex than they’re willing to admit.When women self-report dating behavior, they tend to downplay any sexual interest.Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist, author, and expert panelist on WE TV’s .

Many dating experts preach that when women have sex, it is a reflection of the value that she places on herself and her worth. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, a psychologist, relationship expert, and author of in an email.

Walfish admits she’s had some patients in their mid-to-late 20s who have thrown themselves on her couch the morning after they had sex with a guy because they woke up the next morning feeling devalued.“Their feelings weren’t necessarily by anything the guy did but what they self-impose,” she said.

In entertainment, this modern day archetype of an independent woman is illustrated with television characters like Samantha Jones.

An exclusive study conducted by Dating found more women with high incomes said it’s OK to sleep with someone on the first day of meeting him.

Your palms are sweaty, knees shaking, mouth dry; you’ve come down with a case of the first date jitters.

But soon, the nervousness dissipates and you lock eyes with your date.As you start to list his positive qualities — a decent guy, steady income, stylish dresser, and oh, that chiseled body that can barely be contained by his tailored suit — you begin to ask yourself, The carnal desire to have sex on the first date is usually driven by an intense physical attraction, the love of sex, or simply wanting to receive affection. But we may find that often we overthink getting laid amid our starry-eyed episode.“Psychologically, or cognitively, the urge is interrupted by a thought or reason.The person begins to evaluate and assess what the ramifications may be if they proceed on the urge, or if they curtail their behavior,” Dr.The downfall to all the hook-up fun, though, is skipping over a valuable lesson: forming a relationship.“College dating is a dinosaur and those kids have no idea how to initiate, form, or be in a relationship. Adults sleep together on the second or third date (or even the first date) and then wonder why the relationship did not work out long-term,” Walfish said.“Due to this hook-up culture, guys don’t know what they want until they’re much older.”This leads to mixed messages for both women and men.However, when women are asked to interpret other women’s behaviors, they are more likely to label them as tied to sexual interest.