I think, though, if you can go into any experience with the intention to just be mindful of how often you’re closed off to experiences [and connections] — that’s what I really try to incorporate with my individual clients.

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[which allows women to choose from a pool of men who have already expressed interest]…And there’s [another app] that’s more about a spiritual connection, not necessarily a religious one but more of a soul connection, and it’s called If you have a dog, I think going to dog parks and trying to engage with people [is great], because that’s a really friendly, social environment where you can connect with other people.

I also think gyms or other social environments — like consistent classes — there’s a good sense of community in some of those environments.

When they’re able to be a little bit more confident in their autonomy, that’s when they can be more confident in the dating world, and not necessarily [feel pressured] to force a connection if it’s not there.

I think that has positive outcomes in terms of finding genuine partnership.

I know that if I was single and I moved to a different state and I was [surprised by the dating culture], I would try to embrace it as much as possible…but it also might set you apart to show [your dating partner] a piece of where you’ve come from and how you would date [back home].

For example, [you might say], “Maybe we don’t go out to get milkshakes in L.

Alysha Jeney: With our generation being so used to instant gratification, and used to being so easily accessible to each other, there’s a false sense of connection.

I think the dating game is really isolating, even though [millennials] are immersed in so many different options.

We sat down with Jeney to sort through this massive problem, and to get some practical advice on how to find love in the modern age.