‘It’s always tempting to ‘accidentally’ check out a date’s social media accounts before meeting up.

In fact, our research shows that over a third (38%) of us admit to a pre-date Google. In-depth social media stalking will make you form judgments before you’ve even sat down together so prioritise getting to know the real person, rather than their online persona.’ ‘A first date is your opportunity to get to know your date – and for them to get to know you.

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But while she acknowledges that online dating can turn scary, she encourages women to counteract the nastiness—whether through exposure, humor, or other means—without taking the whole thing too seriously.

“These are the same people that go on racist tirades on You Tube videos about kittens,” she says. You have to recognize that people are often saying those things out of self-hatred.

It’s now almost practically expected: Online dating can turn very weird very quickly.“I think of it as a continuation of the harassment that women see every day in public and on the streets,” says Tweten. It’s just more easily documented online.”Disgusted by her own experience and others, Tweten began collecting these stories–told in the screenshots of online chats gone awry–under an Instagram account called Bye Felipe.

A gender-flipped play on the dismissive Internet-popular phrase “Bye Felicia,” the account–like Tinder Nightmares and others–operates as a curated clearing house of screenshots showcasing the very worst of online dating weirdness, from sudden hostility to unwanted dick picks.

Quite often, a sexually explicit photo arrives out of the blue.

At its worst, the weirdness escalates into a barrage of insults or threats, and in some cases, physical violence.

“These are all interests of mine as well.”Surely, the universe was somehow trolling her. And refreshingly, he had date ideas that extended beyond the default meet-up at a bar. He apologized, explaining that he had meant to call somebody else. She brushed it off, joking that, for a moment, she thought he might have been “a crazy person.” Apparently offended, he started berating her even more furiously.

Perhaps they could go for a nighttime drive around Beverly Hills, or make cocktails and listen to records. “I was trying to explain something and you cut me off! She hung up and dodged several more calls and texts before finally humoring him with a few minutes of her attention. So you can see why I’m pretty tense.” He told Tweten that she had insulted him earlier and asked for an apology.

Shortly after its launch in October 2014, the account went viral and now boasts nearly half-a-million followers.

On Tindr Weirdo, Gazin takes the spirit of Bye Felipe and injects it with her own twisted sense of humor.

At least, as far as one can tell from Tinder: He was a coffee-loving “urban adventurer” from the Midwest and an entrepreneur who walked dogs on the side. So when Nathan (not his real name) matched with Alexandra Tweten, a 28-year-old woman living in Los Angeles, she was eager to start chatting. “It could have been my exact profile,” says Tweten.