This experience is best exemplified by my close friend who I will call Eric.

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That was mostly because I transferred schools, but because we became friends first, we had a connection that drew us back together for a chance at something more.

What we found out was that we had much, much more than friendship in store for us.

It made me SO uncomfortable that guys so much older than me, older than most of my siblings (all of which are 8 years plus older than me), were sending me messages telling me that I was “hot”.

I am getting terribly uncomfortable just thinking about it.

In hindsight, I suppose if I had stayed active with it for a little longer MAYBE I would have encountered a “nice” guy.

I have to mention that I did get maybe a message or two from guys that seemed okay, but once I checked out their profiles, it didn’t seem like we had anything in common so I didn’t bother.

Being a nice guy is probably the worst thing to be when it comes to online dating.

You are a little more than collateral damage, as the large majority of guys slather, drool and stomp their way through the crowds, scaring off most of the nice girls that arrive on these sites, as evidenced by the interview above.

Personally, I think there is so much more to be gained from talking with someone face to face – you are able to read their body language and listen to intonation in their voice, which are much better indicators than online messages or profiles. You’re much more likely to get past the initial message if you can get a girl to first start talking to you based on interests.