His idea of Friday night fun isn't likely beer-chugging and Jello shooter contests.In fact, if you are used to dating undergrad peers, a relationship with a grad student can be substantially different.

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For one thing, watching your partner follow their dreams can make you resentful—or it can make you focus more on your own ambitions. “When I got my acceptance letter, my boyfriend got inspired to make new strides in his career.

It doesn’t work out like that for everyone, but both of us are motivating each other to go farther.” It works even better if both halves of a relationship are obsessed with the same thing.

If your partner is often working late with a peer of the opposite sex, it might be easy for seeds of doubt and mistrust to take root.

Keep the lines of communication open, focus on developing and maintain trust in the relationship and talk to your partner right away if you begin to worry.

Plus, I’m trying to figure out whether a writing MFA would be a good time investment for me, and talking to my boyfriend and his fellow students is giving me a lot of insight into how the program works. Obviously, grad students are using a lot of energy on their program instead of on their relationships. On the bright side, the busy-ness issues mean that my time-management skills are really getting polished.

Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.

During her first semester, there had been a rash of breakups as everyone adjusted to the demands of the program.

But going for an MFA is about more than poverty and being swamped with work (although at their busiest times, grad students might not agree! At its best, graduate school means having the support to delve into your passions—and when my boyfriend was able to delve into his academic passions, that brought a new sparkle to our relationship as well.

A little investigation into your partner’s field of study will help to ensure you’ll hear more than gibberish throughout every conversation of the evening.