You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today.

Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday.

He says they were able to get a "good understanding" of each other's feelings and even met up again a few days later so Vanessa could help Tres work on his résumé. "Unfortunately, things took a turn for the worse," he reveals.

learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully. Don’t be an idiot And don’t be afraid of being one either. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward.

To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul.

After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:1. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. Protect your own heart Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.

Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife.

"I stopped being intimate with my wife — my biggest regret is that I didn't explain to her why," Tres says. Vanessa is one of the most stunning and sexy women that I have ever seen. I stopped because I knew that her heart and feelings were there for me, and mine were no longer there….

I shouldn't have hidden the fact that my feelings had faded." Tres calls ending their relationship "extremely painful" and points out that the pair finally met up for dinner about two weeks ago.

Tres, 27, and Vanessa, 26, had instant chemistry and seemed headed for a lifetime of marital bliss after they both opted to stay married during the March 1 finale.

But when they reconvened six months later for the reunion, the pair's marriage was off.

Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love.