The answer is that mostly they have the dysfunctional mind, with the emotional baggage of fear, anxiety or other mental conflicts and past hurts in interpersonal situations.

This is because the online dating/matching (as provided by the commercial websites) lacks the basic ingredients for developing real love.

The most evident problem involves its use of several categories (plus a few photos) for the daters to predict and decide the effectiveness and success of their further interactions with one another.

slept with some 20 men on these sites before finding her "boyfriend" (who just happens to have a very nice job) it does not look like someone she would necessarily be with, and she certainly does not look all that happy in her situation. How does meeting someone online actually effect later relationships?

While in town so many now know her and she's told me his awkward it is when she runs into these previous men who's she slept with her boyfriend (some of them bunches of times) How can you take someone serious when they are "advertising" themselves in that way. The article does seem overly focused on drawing an irrelevant dichotomy between "face to face" and online interactions. Do people tend to "lean" on online match-making, and stop looking to meet other people socially, or do they use it to enhance their network of people they do things with. What is the effect or desirability of various delays - two weeks of messaging once or twice a week before arranging a date? The question is not face to face versus over the internet, the question is whether or not supplementing or beginning with over the internet is boon or a bust.

Online dating is a category-based, rather than an interaction-based process.

In the category-based process, one uses some concepts to predict both possibilities of acceptance and rejection by the others. I make a distinction between online communications and online dating/matching.Women weigh income more than physical characteristics, and men sought physical attractiveness and offered status-related information more than women. The service users preferred similarity on a variety of (mainly demographic) categories (including child preferences, education, and physical features like height, age, race, religion, political views, and smoking).It is accurate to say that the research findings showed some behavior and attitudes of the online daters who joined the internet community with different motivations, expectations and backgrounds, but it is inaccurate to assume the behavior and attitudes reflect real interpersonal attractions.First, it is an opposite of face-to -face interaction.Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters.This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.