Here is the collected consensus of 11 categories of men you might encounter when dating online: 1.Just Looking He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen.(This category may also include the desire to act out sexual fantasies and fetishes that couldn’t previously be realized).

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The longer he continues the lie, the worse the discovery is.

Relationships that start by duping a partner don't end well. Sooo Busy This is the former Ivy League rower, now a neurosurgeon who has chosen the Internet to meet women who are likely on their own tight timelines.

This can be a difficult and provocative situation for all parties involved, so proceed with caution.

Most assumptions about how you and he will conduct your relationship are not as straight-forward and as they may initially seem. Trying to Get Over The Ex He is looking to avoid being alone after a heart-wrenching breakup.

However, it may be possible for him to shift from fantasy to reality now or over time as he realizes he has to make some concessions if he wants to have a real partner. Lies About Age He is typically older, in his 50s, 60s, or even 70s, and is set on meeting and dating women significantly younger than he is, so he shaves years off his life in his profile, even in his "current" online pictures.

He may be very well meaning, and may truly believe that once he meets these young women they will be so drawn to him that the deception won’t matter, and the age difference will be rendered irrelevant.

Either way, unlike the first type listed, he has probably had more positive than negative dating experiences overall, so he may be open right away or over time to a committed, authentic relationship.

However, given his age and other potential factors such as how easily distracted he is, once he discovers just how many choices he has online, he may become less interested in committing and more interested in continuing to look around. The Experimenters He believes that older women “know what they want.” He is typically 20 to mid 30's and he wants often because he believes that an older woman has much to teach him sexually, and this prospect excites him.

However, starting a relationship with a lie—now matter how “harmless” it may seem to him—takes away from the woman’s ability to use her own discretion and decision-making power and therefore erodes trust.

When she inevitably finds out, she typically finds the age difference and the lie far more jarring than he had anticipated.

When he needs connection or the fantasy of a relationship, he can effectively “order out” for a date.