He was slightly shy, a touch formal, rather nervy and very kind. He was the great champion of ‘muddling through’, getting by’ and being ‘good enough’ rather than perfect.

Ideally, one day, it will be as desirable to be called warm as it currently is to be labelled ‘cool’; there will be lists of the 40 warmest men under 40; boys will come home from school and complain to their mothers: ‘I can’t do it, I can’t, I don’t know how to be warm’; girls at fashionable bars will take mental notes of where the warm guys are sitting; and in the secret soul of every man there will be a quiet, steady yearning to be as warm as they possibly can.

However, confidence is not a given: it is a quality we can learn about and develop in ourselves.

The warm man has a good sense of how demented and fragile we all are.

So he goes out of his way to reassure, to be forgiving and to be gentle.

The husband and father was so traumatized that he committed suicide," said the report.

"The Christians have told me that they cannot pay this tax," Dr. Secretary of State John Kerry met with Iraqi Kurdish President Massoud Barzani and other officials on Tuesday and Barzani painted a dire picture of security.

This is what, as a man, one is supposed to be like.

For decades some of the most astute and creative minds have devoted themselves to making this notion of masculinity attractive – it’s been portrayed as enviable, seductive to women, and well-dressed.A Christian father who watched his wife and daughter get brutally raped by members of the militant group, Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) because he couldn't pay them a poll tax in Mosul, Iraq, killed himself under the weight of the trauma this past weekend.A report from the Assyrian International News Agency said ISIS began enforcing Islamic laws in the northern Iraq city which they overran on June 10. Sallama Al-Khafaji of the Iraq High Commission for Human Rights said the incident happened on Saturday after ISIS began asking Christians in Mosul for a poll tax.His weaknesses have made him immensely generous to others.When the waiter spills the cocktail, the warm hero laughs (he has spilled a few himself) and leaves a generous tip if he can.Significantly, a list of exemplary warm men doesn’t really exist. Here are some leading candidates for inclusion (they are, perhaps significantly, much less famous than those on the cool list): – in the 16th century he wrote candidly about his fears of impotence, his tendency to belch at inopportune moments, and his love for his father; he was filled with self-doubt (his favourite phrase was ‘what do I know?