Steer clear of these topics until you know each other better. Your 25-year-old may want to linger and go down the rabbit hole trying to figure it all out. Take care of yourself by initiating a conversation and sharing your needs and wants. This keeps you open to someone who might not be your type. Keep your body language open, play with your hair, smile, touch his arm.

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But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.

On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.

Most people want to find a friend or a life partner, and to meet the dates who may fulfill this desire, many 50-somethings, about 80 percent in fact, do it the old-fashioned way — through friends or family. Dating after 40 or 50 means taking control of your love life, just like you do the rest of your life. Baggage bonding is when an early date shifts into deep conversation about some baggage you have in common. You start comparing your horrific ex-spouses or your crazy awful dates. Men know who and what they want, often better than we do. The last thing you want at 55 is to wake up in the morning with flashbacks to your days as a 20-something, right? His manners, his shirt, his smile, the way he talks about his kids. If he walks away from the date having shared too much or hasn’t learned about you, then there won't be a second date.

It means being kind to yourself and the men you meet. I have compiled a list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts exclusively for women like you. These are for the woman who is done repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story. It starts off innocently with a question like “So what happened with your marriage? Nothing positive can possibly come from this, sister. Yes, I know he said he was going to call you, I know you had a great date and want to see him again. That’s especially true of the grownup men that you’re dating. Unless you can talk with your dude about safe sex and the status of your relationship after intimacy, steer clear of the sack. Start off with the positive and try to stay in mode before you decide he’s not right for you.

As to the “why” behind the lack of date-nights, nearly 60 percent say they don’t need a relationship to be happy.

More than 40 percent said they were considering it, but not actually doing it. Show your best side in your online dating profiles and when you are on dates. Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. It's true for every aspect of your life, including dating. Stop having Shiny Penny Syndrome, thinking there is always someone better out there for you. That's where relationship experts and dating coaches can be helpful. Don't be too transparent on a first date by revealing all the good, the bad and the ugly about yourself. Let it slide off you, knowing you are one date closer to finding the ONE you are looking for. Never be married to an idea of who the person in your life must be. Know the current dating rules that will make you successful at finding love again after 50. No, you weren't handed them with your divorce papers. Go from invisibility to Rock Star Visibility with a great picture and profile online! Be Teflon-coated by knowing some people will like you and some won't. Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date. A big obstacle to finding love after 50 happens when you're NOT putting yourself in places where you can be seen and found by available men on a DAILY BASIS! What man doesn't love improving his golf swing and now they can do it year round at indoor and outdoor driving ranges. Men are there checking out books and movies every day. All you have to do is make sure you're in places where the two of you can meet. Have a vision that is too narrow when it comes to the kind of men you are willing to date.Men can't find you when you're hiding every night at home. Ask most women what they want in a man and a type similar to Richard Gere's character in "Pretty Woman" comes to mind. Having been spoon fed on fairy tales as a little girl can jade you to who a great guy might be- often giving you unrealistic expectations of who "Quality Men" really are. Stay open to dating all kinds of men with all kinds of looks, backgrounds, and interests as long as they are economically self sufficient, meaning they can hold their own and won't be financially dependent on you. Give up on dating after one or even five bad dates! Put in writing what type of relationship you hope to find -- both short term and long term. Be committed to spending time daily looking for potential dates, whether online or in the real world.