Everything comes before the person they're dating.7.

You can tell that something about relationships clearly freaks them out, but they can't articulate it.

The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem, after all.

Because they don't want to view dating as "serious", they don't stress over or prioritize getting there on time and don't really care if them cancelling screws up their chances with you. They’re pretty impulsive, but only when it comes to you.

“They may be very conscientious and hardworking at work or in school but then be impulsive when it comes to going out or getting together,” says Brogaard.

You know a commitment-phobe when you see one on TV, or you wouldn’t have groaned every time Carrie and Mr. But in your own life, spotting that commitment-phobe in between all the “I’m not sure when I’ll be free tonight’s” is a tougher challenge. Berit Brogaard, Professor and Director of the Brogaard Lab for Multisensory Research at the University of Miami, explains how to spot avoidant attachment in the wild. But a commitment-phobe, according to Brogaard, will have “a tendency not to continue a text message thread, by replying briefly or submissively with 'K,' 'Sounds like fun,' 'Wow,' 'IDK' and so on.” So before you let them off the hook for bad texting, consider the fact that they could be emotionally unavailable. Even after a great date, you won’t hear from them anytime soon.

Brogaard warns that commitment-phobes tend to not initiate contact first and will go through long periods of radio silence after dates — meaning YOU always have to do all the romantic legwork.3. Here are some key phrases that Brogaard says raise commitment-phobia alarm bells: binge.They complain about the pressure to be in a monogamous relationship a lot.Whether it’s the fact that all their former drinking buddies are now coupled up, or that their Thanksgivings turn into “why are you still single???Who cares that you don't know the full rules of basketball and don't really care?Not this guy, who only tells you when he’s free three hours in advance! They’re chronically late, chronically flakey, or a lovely combo of both.Brogaard suggests possible questions to ask a commitment-phobe about their fears of relationships: “Is it that they impose on your need for alone time? Is it that you set unrealistically high standards for potential partners?