What may be a beautiful and holy male-female friendship in one instance may not be translatable to every male and female, and certainly cannot be absolutized to every male and female. But when the risks have been weighed and the rewarding structures have been established, we can, with a clear conscience, come before God and ask him to bless our friendships with the opposite sex. And like all beautiful things, it requires patient investment, open-handed humility, ruthless selflessness and self-awareness, and self-control.This confidence is earned through a mature and godly track record: “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap” (Galatians 6:7). Paul encourages us, “Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality” (Romans ).

And we need to be careful, in the context of rigorous community, that we’re not fooling ourselves about our own intentions.

Once we have been honest about our own intentions, we must articulate them clearly.

Is it because we are subtly aroused by flirting with the boundaries of something that feels off-limits?

God rewards a thoughtful answer that honestly reflects the state of our hearts.

” Can humility and honesty, community and accountability, protect us from the looming consequences, and allow us to enjoy the good that can come from these friendships?

Every relationship — all intimacy — flourishes with the right kind of boundaries.” we must realize that each new possibility of a friendship between a woman and a man may require a “no” or “yes” in various circumstances, or at various stages of life. But even between single people, the dangers are significant. This is called “the friend zone,” and it’s very easy for tectonic plates of desire to create exciting and heated friendship when that heat is, in fact, caused by motivations moving in opposite directions.Since any godly male-female friendship will be friendship between two disciples of Christ, the first step in building that friendship is to “count the cost, whether [you have] enough to complete it” (Luke ). Male-female friendship always brings the possibility for awkwardness, for conflict, for heartache. Whether we’re the desiring or the desired, let’s be honest with ourselves: do we both want the same thing from this friendship? Are they obviously inappropriate, or undeniably essential in healthy church community? To start, multiple What do these friendships look like? Does God prohibit them, or are they vital to the body of Christ?So what is the appropriate path for female-male friendships?