So you’ve signed up for a dating site like Plenty Of Fish, thought long and hard about your profile, and selected just the right pictures to demonstrate what a great catch you are.

But there’s one area that’s still stressing you out: More specifically, coming up with one of your own. If you’re just hanging out on OKCupid or Christian Mingle, then you’re one of the lucky dudes who don’t need to stress over their headline.

Here’s what search results look like on Millionaire Match: See how that headline is the first thing you see?

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The “It Ain’t Easy Bein’ Sleazy” Headline Please don’t include the phrase “DTF” (or any of its variants) anywhere in your online dating profile.

(Yes, we’ve seen it, we just wish we hadn’t.)Your headline isn’t the place to advertise that you’re only in the market for a friend with benefits. If you’re not looking for something serious, that’s fine.

You’ll see smart ways to differentiate yourself with your headline in a bit.

The Sadsack Headline Please don’t represent yourself as a desperate loser burdened by years of baggage. The message you’re sending with headlines like these is that you’re unhappy, weighed down with tons of issues, and resigned to a sad fate of online dating.

It’s also effective to phrase your headline as a question.

After all, the woman will then want to either know or provide the answer.

But if you’re one of the millions of guys trying their luck on a dating site or app that requires a headline, then read on. Your dating headline is one of the first things on your profile that sets you apart from the crowd of posers, six-pack-selfy-takers, nimrods, and lowlifes.

In fact, on some websites, it’s one of the first things a woman sees in her search results.

The Hey/Hi/Hello Headline Don’t use some form of greeting. You might as well have said “I’m on here because I want to meet women” or “Single and Ready to Mingle.”Use this rule of thumb: if it’s been printed on a mass-produced t-shirt, you might want to avoid it.

The Most Special Snowflake Headline It’s great that you’re a vegan, a Jehovah’s Witness, a Cross Fit enthusiast, and a CEO who only dates models.

Either way, ellipses and question marks make it seem like you’re having a conversation – without you even having to say anything directly.