“We feel like we have to act a certain way to be black and it affects our dating choices.” Ladies, have you dated outside your race? What do you think about black men seeming to be more "open" to dating outside their race than black women? In her spare time, the Chicago native continues to freelance and ponder ways to both inform and improve her community one story at a time.

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They’re the responses you’ll hear from any single woman who’s actively hunting for real love when you ask what the dating scene is like in her town.

We hear Black women in particular express concern time and time again over the lack of quality men in their local dating pools.

Find out what they had to say about their Black female clients’ biggest obstacles, desires and successes! They’ve been very successful in their careers but have had real challenges meeting a counterpart.

Some of them haven’t been on a date in two or three years. COM: Why do these Black women feel they haven’t been on any dates?

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COM: Do you feel Black women and men are too particular when it comes to potential dating candidates?

Iya's Facts: Iya Bakare, GMO’s Associate Editor, earned both her Bachelor and Master of Arts degrees in print journalism.

” “I can’t take these guys seriously.”“They don’t want the same things that I do.”Sound familiar?

According to the Pew Research Center, 14.6 percent of all new marriages in the United States in 2008 were between spouses of a different race or different ethnicity.