Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.

It is often 10-20 years younger than them and these are very “average” appearing guys .

They have told me of their frustration with lack of responses.

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It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.

I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.

It’s difficult to meet large numbers of men that way, but I’m starting to feel like my chance of making a non age-biased connection with a guy is only out in the real world.

And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.

I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.

It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.

I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.

I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.

I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e.g. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great.