1930s dating guide for women
It's one of those words with which most people are familiar, but have vastly differing opinions of what it means. It summons visions of men women with small tokens of affection and asking their hand in marriage on bended knee.
For social scientists, studies of courtship usually look at the process of "mate selection." (Social scientists, among whom I number myself from time to time, will never be accused of being romantics.) For the purpose of this article the , prior to the early 20th century, courtship involved one man and one woman spending intentional time together to get to know each other with the expressed purpose of evaluating the other as a potential husband or wife.
Veronica Roasio, also reported in the Bath Chronicle, said that women should remember “he earns a living and “so shields you from the world”.
Bailey observes that by the 1930s and '40s, with the advent of the "date" (which we will look at more fully in the next installment) courtship increasingly took place in public spaces such as movie theaters and dance halls, removed by distance and by anonymity from the sheltering and controlling contexts of the home and local community.
Keeping company in the family parlor was replaced by dining and dancing, movies, and "parking." A second cultural force that influenced the older courtship system was the rise of "public advice" literature as well as the rise of an "expert" class of advisers — psychologists, sociologists, statisticians, etc.
It's as if those who wrote and commented on male-female relationship had stopped reading the Song of Solomon and Jane Austen in favor of Adam Smith, Karl Marx and John Maynard Keynes.
The new courtship system gave importance to This new language of courtship had great symbolic importance and continues to shape the way we think, speak and act concerning relationships to this day.
Other pearls of wisdom included a direction from a vicar, given during a Mothering Sunday sermon as reported in the Derby Daily Telegraph. W M Irwin, the vicar of Duffield, Derbyshire, said: “Long faces and nagging did not get you your husband, and long faces and nagging will not keep them.” Mrs Dobbin Crawford, a Liverpool surgeon, 1930, said in the Bath Chronicle in 1930, never “criticise your husband even to your mother.
“Nothing destroys the happiness of married life more than the lazy, slovenly wife,” she adds.However, a lot of the book is more shocking than funny, especially in its treatment of women.The advice, uncovered by the British Newspaper Archive’s collection, has shown a misogynistic, if amusing, side to newspapers from generations past, as women were given advice on how to keep their husbands happy.In the Sunderland Echo in 1893, an expert advises that a wife could have the looks of “Helen of Troy and the intellect of Minerva, the goddess of wisdom” but without “tact” it means nothing.“It is a woman who possesses more tact than love who retains the devotion of a man,” it adds.At the same time that the public entertainment culture was on the rise in the early 20th century, a proliferation of magazine articles and books began offering advice about courtship, marriage and the relationship between the sexes.